Faiza - Me and my Memories of You!

CLOSER!!!!

After a long time got sometime alone at home yesterday. And what more, I swich on the TV and there they are playing a movie I soooo wanted to see for the longest time….yes! CLOSER!
Its a beautiful movie with some great performances and a superb storyline.
How people fall in and out of love instantly, how truth and lies play us like puppets…..sometimes truth hurts more than lies and sometimes lies end relationships….i am totally impressed by such movies and cannot understand how these moviemakers can get into a situation so intricately and describe details that are so close to the real life….!!
Was up till 3 to watch the movie….and yeah the song, “Blower’s Daughter” still lingering on my mind…I remember I had added this video to my orkut (now extinct!!)….
Anyways here are a few of the quotes from the movie that I really liked…..
When Dan tells Alice he loves someone else (Anna).
Dan: I fell in love with her, Alice.
Alice: Oh, as if you had no choice? There's a moment, there's always a moment, "I can do this, I can give into this, or I can resist it", and I don't know when your moment was, but I bet you there was one.
When Dan asks Alice what happened to her previous relationship:
Dan: And you left him, just like that?
Alice: It's the only way to leave. "I don't love you anymore. Goodbye."
Dan: Supposing you do still love them?
Alice: You don't leave.
Dan: You've never left someone you still love?
Alice: Nope.
When Dan, after sleeping with another woman says he still loves Alice:
Alice: Where is this love? I can't see it, I can't touch it. I can't feel it. I can hear it. I can hear some words, but I can't do anything with your easy words.

A recommendation to watch it...a good movie about relationships, truth, lies, deception, forgiveness, and LOVE!!

Sometimes, events that happen in our life make us feel tired, burdened, or regretful. We spend too much time thinking about a horrible deed we've committed, even though we no can no longer change it. So how do we move on from a bad experience?
Steps
1. Accept that it happened. It's not the easiest thing to do, but it will help you get on your way. The past is a part of your life now, but it is not the most important part. Accept the fact that it can no longer be changed in anyway.
2. Change your cognition to not feel as bad about what happened, and decrease anxiety that triggers going back to the past; for example, if you were embarrassed, tell yourself don't worry, everyone gets embarrassed; various relaxation methods will decrease anxiety which can trigger bad memories.
3. Live in the present. This one is kind of hard, as well, since the present is easy to take for granted. Know that by constantly using your present time wisely, you are constantly making a better past for yourself.
4. Learn from it. Something good always comes out of anything, even if it is a very bad experience. Find the lesson involved and try not to make the same mistake twice.
5. Forgive. Yourself or the ones that have hurt you. Cut some slack to others and yourself. Nobody asks to be given a bad memory. People are not perfect. Everyone is prone to make mistakes. That's how people are. And the only way to really move on from a bad experience is to forgive the people involved.
If all of the above don't help, then maybe try some journaling in a diary, or journal. But be specific about what's bothering you.

Just forgive them for what ever they have done and dont ever be sad they are too human and thus make mistakes just look for hopes because ""fear can hold you as a prisoner and hope can set you free"""

Some more Tips
• If it really bothers you, talk to someone you trust and feel comfortable around. Talking is good. Not talking about it makes you bottle it up, and the next thing you know, medication is involved.
• Compare it to another's bad experience. Think about it. I mean, you've had a bad day, but that other person may have had a bad year. You may have lost your cat, but that person across the street lost his mom. Everything is relative, even problems.
• If you keep remembering things you don't want to remember- if it is really bad, keep telling yourself to "forget the past" and seek and see a counselor/psychologist


No denying the past. Because, no matter how hard you bury it, it will resurface time and again.

dreamt of you today! walking in some old forest with me, both were silent....i dunno y but we werent talking...we kept on movoing through the trees and bushes, perfectly in sync with each other, in perfect harmony n peace, a speechless coordination of two bodies yet one mind.....
we arrive at a small wooden house, a sweet small child with beautiful golden hair and dark eyes embraces us, again speechlessly, then he keeps a bowl of salt or some white powder in front of us while we are sitting at the oppoite ends of a wooden table. then he says only these words, "you know why!"

i opened my eyes, n it was as if i was actually there with you...time to go to work... your dream will linger in my mind all day today!
hope all is fine with you....

Our hearts are like vessels, we fill them with love, hatred, passion, lies, deceit, etc etc…..
We have various pockets inside this vessel of ours, for the ones we love we have a larger space, for our friends we have some more large spaces, for general acquaintances small spaces…. when someone whom we barely know hurts us, the space get filled n closed, and we just push them away. when our loved ones offend us or hurt us, we forgive them easily, coz there is just too much space filled with love and affection hence the hurt gets absorbed in the huge space…..I always thought that there is no limit to this space and when we truly love someone we could not at any cost push them away from us…..but I was wrong….this is a limited space too and when the balance between love and lies gets disturbed, this space gets overfilled and even the smallest of lies or faintest of offenses spills the contents of this space, making it unbearable to hold them in your heart anymore….and the only way is to let go…..